the 8 great forgotten of the Coaching that we must reinforce in our long-term personal, labor and business competitive strategy
1.- OBJECTIVES OF PRIVATE COACHING
Private Coaching, which you contract directly, works with your personal goals and focuses on them, regardless of the legitimate business objectives.
It is your wishes, your challenges, your career that will mark the sessions, establishing with your Mentor Coach a relationship of support with results that otherwise would be very difficult for you to achieve.
2 ..- INDEPENDENCE AND COACHING
More and more professionals hire private coaching oriented to their own objectives.
The training budgets of companies are limited and only a part of managers have access to coaching processes.
Private coaching has three great advantages: Independence, cost and full adaptation to your goals.
3.- CONFIDENTIALITY
Confidentiality and Coaching are inseparable. The great advantage of PRIVATE COACHING (the one contracted personally), is INDEPENDENCE.
When this exists as much on the part of the client as of the coach, it is when the deepest learning takes place, the “reframings”, those changes in the observer that we are, that new way of seeing things. When the magic occurs. When in a single session nothing changes and everything changes.
It is when you work 100% for the client’s objective, without being mediated by the legitimate objectives of the sponsor.
4.- KINTSUGI
“In Japanese culture, when a vase is broken it is recomposed with a glue containing gold, and each suture of the jarron looks like a valuable addition, so the geography of the jarron is modified upwards, as showing its history and the This is a reconstruction that, instead of diminishing its value, increases it “. (Remei Margarit)
Is not it a great remedy for the soul?
5.- ERROR versus FAILURE
“Failure can be the first step to true success” (Charles Pépin)
In that sense distinguishes three types: Those that make us more combative.
Those that make us wiser
Those who give us back the availability to do something else. “(Màrius Carol).
Language is not harmless, it creates reality. I invite you to replace the word “failure” that hurts you and paralyzes you, by the word “error” that stimulates you and opens you options.
6.- YOU HAVE TO BE IN THE MOUNTAIN AS IF YOU DID NOT BE “(Eduardo M. De Pison)
As a COACH in a COACHING process!
I like the mountain, that’s why I could not resist comparing the attitude gathered in the words of Eduardo Martínez de Pisón: professor, geographer, mountaineer and writer with the role of a Coach in a Coaching process: listening, respecting, being humble. As if he were not!
He says it like this:
“It is fundamental not to hinder, not to be aggressive with nature, not to have the spirit of conqueror but to be conquered, human being hinders because it is aggressive, feared …”
7.- GIVE A BREATH!
RIchard Brennan (expert in the Alexander method: mind body and emotions are inseparable), has just published in Spanish “Como respirar”. Inma Sanchís, a journalist, asks for a home remedy to calm down in any situation.
“The first and most important thing is to be aware of your breathing, if you pay attention and improve, do this exercise:
Inhale through the nose and breathe out gently through the mouth blowing as if you made soap bubbles to get all the air but without forcing. Inhale and repeat. Do it six times in a row, at least three times a day while walking, driving, etc. etc.”
8.- “THE VALUE OF DOUBT”
I like those who doubt!
“Our intelligence informs us of how little we know, and that implies the value of the doubt We are looking for a bit of truth in the midst of the confusion of the events that are happening, as if they were remnants of the lies of those who do not never hesitate
To accept doubt is to accept the possible error of ourselves and of others and also the need for reflection and moderation in everything that is said and done; in short, a renunciation of omnipotence and an adjustment to reality. “(R.Margarit, psychologist and writer)